Weekly Wisdom #254 - Leopards Changing Spots

Things I am afraid of:
1. Loosing money for my partners
2. People around me seeing me fail again.
3. Getting properties and not having buyers/investors ready to go

I try each day to be better but it seems like I am always fighting to get back to where is was or beyond

Yep, your spot on with your comments. Actions is the result of a decision.

We bought a house! So excited to buy a foreclosure and we're ready to start today! There's so much I've wanted to know about investing in real estate but didn't even know the questions to ask. I'm getting over that fear and learning to JUST ASK! Your team and so many other people in the REI clubs, real estate, foreclosure experts, GCs, etc. are really willing to come alongside and help.
I'll keep you posted with our progress. Want to rehab and sell it by December (or sooner if possible!)

If you have any homes in the Phoenix area, please contact me.

I really appreciate your talk about avoiding confrontation. I have found for myself as well that there is a sense of pleasurable relief that comes from stating my views on an issue and listening to others so that we may find a compromising place to meet. However, it is also noted that this doesn't always work. I, too, have lost people, places, and things as a result, but the greatest thing I have gained is a deeper sense of self-worth.
Over the years, my greatest obstacle has been fear of losing something or someone by being who I am. Needless to say, I have also found that same fear to be a stepping stone to greater things. In essence, it is only by moving forward despite my internal fears-ensuring that they don't reflect externally-that I am able to stand my ground despite what others feel is right or wrong for me. It is largely why when those around me or the situations that I deal with day to day tend to attempt to dictate what I can do and how far I can go, I don't allow my vision to be clouded long with the internal fears and move forward.
By learning to be the best me for myself and so that I may be of selfless service to others, I am able to move forward with my fears being a part of me, not the dictators of my future despite my past.

I was scared of almost everything what everyone has individually, that, I am not a business minded,
for business you need a bunch of treasures or big amount, you have to have experience to do business, but Now I know that I need a system, which would do everything for me what I need, but still I have to do something, I have to take action, I have to decide something different, i have to take risk etc.
Now as you know, I bought a house in the buying summit last year getting rent at my home sitting, how cool is the system. I didn't have to go to the site. Just because I trust your team, your system. Thanks for everything Dean. Now I am looking to sell that house and buy even more expensive and / or have more cash flowing opportunity. I hope I would be saying my experiences too on your website or in a buying summit. Thanks again.

Shoaib from Canada.

I like this weeks weekly wisdom Dean. Sometimes it's like you are speaking directly to me. When this happens I get so encouraged. Thank you for that encouragement.

Hi Dean,

Yes, that's me... not talking to homeowners because I am afraid they will say "no" or I am not smart enough. The other thing is recording my expenses under pressure during tax season, when I have all year to get it together. Right, I am not making any money. Thanks for the Weekly Wisdom, they really remind us of things we should be doing. I just made up my mind to "just do it!"

Katrina (NY)

Thank you for this Weekly Wisdom. This topic hit me in the head. I too don't like confrontation in the past 10 years in been a very bad years from relationship to families, to lose many dear people that I look up to and can help me. Especially, when I lose my sister to her open heart surgery after this I have to care for elderly grandma 101 year old and disable mom got hit by a car and daughter born with cliff palate on top of that relationship. Thing got very worst with my family after grandma passed. I couldn't take or stand anymore dealing with all these close, negative and the confrontation so I just keep quiet. It's doesn't matter what I try to say with these click of people I can't get my words to them without arguing. So one day I made up my mind and move to Florida with my children and my disable mother. I told myself that If I want to be better than this people I have to stay away from this people and be a round people that are positive and better than I am. Moving to Florida with my little bit of saving and no credit cards to leverage but at least I don't have to hear all of these people. I am starting a new chapter in my life and I am going to be better than them all.

My fear of talking or what to do say. Fear of the confrontation of saying the wrong thing. Follow up with people. You Dean I know it cost me a lot of money that I don't have but you inspired me every time you speak and you are AMAZING!! and soon I WILL make it and I have to and my mission work (homeless shelter over sea) WILL happen.

God Bless,

Elizabeth

Hi Dean.
I am afraid of rejection.
I am also afraid to talk to a realestate agent cause they will check my credit right away. My credit is trash and the agent won't let me bid on property.

fear of failure due to lack of knowledge. Sometimes it takes a long time for things to set in...The fear of not being able to remember what I need to remember..Lack of education thinking I need to know everything before I can attain anything

I hear what you're saying Dean.

One of the things I want to do is
work out consistently....sometimes
I'll skip a day and it turns into a week.

I'm focused on changing things by
actually doing the X-Factor workout
[right now] while I'm getting caught
up watching these weekly wisdom videos.

That will help get some momentum
going today! thx -cya

Thank you so much Dean! I'm 49 years old and have some health issues that don't allow me to do the hard labor I used to do. I've always lived paycheck to paycheck. I'm a little scared and my self esteem is not too high, I just need a break, just something to break the ice and bring back my confidence.
I've raised my children on my own and have always been behind. Hopefully I can find the courage and the strength to do this program and start a new life for me and my family.
God bless you and thank you for what you are doing for other people.
Albert Belt
P.S.
I know what you mean, I've always tried to avoid confrontation if at all possible. It's always that first step that's the hardest, but once you take it you realize it really isn't that difficult.
Once again, God bless you and thank you so very much for what you do for other people.
Oh by the way if you can help me locate and work out some RE deals in WV. let me know, I would really appreciate it! I need a hard push and some confidence LOL!

My fear is wasting my time/or that I will fail trying. Sounds strange to say it even, and is the exact opposite of all the motivational/self improvement items I have ever read or trained on.

One of my favorite icons ever is Ben Franklin... who was ever remembered for thousands of failures that ultimately helped him produce and prove electricity.

I have faced my fear in the past... My first triumph vs. fear was speaking and interacting with people and public places. At one point I was a little freaked out just going into the grocery store. Knowing this was a huge weakness, I decided to hit is straight on.

My first class in college was public speaking. I was terrified really... I took it in the summer of my senior year in high school. But something strange happened...

I got so much energy by communicating to a class, reading poetry or acting out my football routine... I loved it (yet I still have hesitations/anxiousness doing it)

I decided my Major in college was going to be Mass Communications, and my dream of being a public speaker emerged.

I went into sales (even though I really disliked "sales" people) and I really struggled at first, didn't like bothering people, didn't like pushing, etc. I stuck with it, and left school to start a sales team of my own.

I have to keep fighting laziness/fear of failure (non-action) because if I do not... my little girl (18mo) doesn't get to go to the best pre-school, where most of the kids learn to read by age 4... or go to gymnastic's class she loves so much.

What opportunities in the future would she miss out on if I stop and succumb to non-action? My laziness will ultimately strip her of her potential, keep my family in debt, and risk our very health.. (I don't have health insurance now because I can't afford it)

How can I take these away knowingly, because I didn't want to pick up the phone at work... or put up 25 bandit signs? Is putting off these action steps really worth it?

If I don't fight laziness/fear of failure, with massive action, I WILL be the "hopeless dreamer". My wife will lose faith in me to put my selfishness aside strive to provide the best for us.

Only fear that can stop us from extending that effort and creating the very best in our lives. Maybe fear of the lost potential can propel us all forward.

I have a stepping stone on my wall above my desk I have had for 10 years. On it reads:

"There is no happiness without action"

I have knowingly ran from action for 10 years, as this is still my biggest fear.

IT IS JUST A MATTER OF REALLY DECIDING TO GO AHEAD AND GET IT DONE. i WISH TO BECOME VERY SUCCESSFULL IN THIS REAL ESTATE VENTURE I HAVE NO MONEY AND DO NOT KNOW HOW I WILL LIVE NEXT MONTH BUT I WILL GO ALL OUT EVERYDAY AND TRY AND MAKE IT WORK I HAVE READ ALL YOUR BOOKS AND WILL BE FOLLOWING THE ACTION PLAN FOR SUCCESS STARTING TODAY.
MY CHANGE IS REALLY TO OVERCOME FEAR AND MY FINANCIAL LACK

IT IS JUST A MATTER OF REALLY DECIDING TO GO AHEAD AND GET IT DONE. i WISH TO BECOME VERY SUCCESSFULL IN THIS REAL ESTATE VENTURE I HAVE NO MONEY AND DO NOT KNOW HOW I WILL LIVE NEXT MONTH BUT I WILL GO ALL OUT EVERYDAY AND TRY AND MAKE IT WORK I HAVE READ ALL YOUR BOOKS AND WILL BE FOLLOWING THE ACTION PLAN FOR SUCCESS STARTING TODAY.
MY CHANGE IS REALLY TO OVERCOME FEAR AND MY FINANCIAL LACK

Dean I was in Iraq and sent an email to my fiancee JC Ryder and we joined the program at the full Diamond Level and the Evolution Inner Circle. I'm currently in an aviation job that I want out of desperately! So I've taken all that risk and pain and taken it into a positive motivation.

Though this program I have pulled five income sources into one in an Accuplan SDIRA after going to the October Buying Summit. Since then I have bought throughout he SDIRA a cash flowing Section 8 SFR 3/1 for $42,000 and is generating $722 a month.

So here is my momentum. We went to a San Diego BOG with Ayres Boyd and John Free, and had a two day mentor Ryan Hughes out to our home. GREAT PEOPLE!!!!

Though BOG, Ayres recommended a local RE Club run by Bill Tan SDCIA. There is networking before, and a "Have Want" for 30 seconds each.

I did a shameless plug for myself in front of about 400 people, of wanting to break into this business full time. This was a huge plug for your organization as I told everyone in that meeting of the important resources and knowledge that I have from your training and call center.

I got an immediate response of people wanting to help, Mike Mason, Rich Worchester, and importantly a couple that are also DG members Chris and Kether Sprague.

I just meant with Chris Sprague yesterday and we are going full blast into finding the deals and implementing the strategies that we have learned.

My hats off to you Dean, you are top notch!

So send the computer to my house so I can pass it on to one of my kids.

Thanks, Bret
Managing Member of Timberknollwest, LLC

My biggest pain comes from CONFRONTATION as well. Whether it be true confrontation or the thought that it is going to be there. I have tried to start many businesses and after the start of each one the reality hits me that I am going to have t "SPEAK to PEOPLE" and that in itself Gets me in it's frozen grip. I pain over thinking that I have no right to help others out of difficult situations, that they will be offended that I think they are incapable of helping themselves. I start to think (and there is where it goes wrong)I am not smart enough to help them, or that they are going to think I am scamming them. I do know how to help people out of bad situations with their homes, because you have given me the tools. The bigger pain is that I will have nothing to leave my sons if I don't overcome my fear of confrontation. I will have no retirement if I don't overcome it, and If I don't move forward I will be left behind. I have to realize that what I have to share with them "IS worthy of note" and it can either save their house or their situation. The fact that I am paid to help them should be of no consequence.
I want to have a secure future,something for my sons, and a little place that I can help others out in. Dean you give me a wake up call every now and then (mostly NOW), But it is time for me to take action. Thanks for all your time and effort to helping all of us to succeed.
John

I will make what i don't like, what I like. I think I get it.

1) I like talking to people I don't know that call me & I want to call them back because the pain is greater to Not call them back than to call them back.

2) I like getting out of my car at a busy intersection to put out a bandit sign. The pain is greater to Not get out of my car than to stay in it.

Thanks Dean. I want to do these things for my kids to have a better life......

Debra

I have had years of Fear, let's say decades. Having no real guidance or mentor I thought this was the way we had to deal with life. Over and over I continue to fail in everything I did just to survive. I've had so much doubt and negative in me and my surroundings I almost lost hope. Then, I turned to God just to figure out what was his fear. After going to many churches, and temples, and reading different Bibles. I learned that Jesus fear was disappointing his father whom he Loved. From that lesson I knew that my choices in life depended on the lives of my children. So, I decided to try Jesus blue print, since he was the best entrepreneur ever walked the earth and it worked for him. My first door I was afraid to talk to people, still I talk to people. nicely. I was spit on, sprayed with a water hose, door slammed, had there dog to attack me, & chased. People just wanted company, they where miserable, no intentions on selling quick, I can go on, and on. I never gave up! I learned how to work with different personalities, observe my surroundings, took notes, and started getting more yes than no's.

I had another fear of talking on the phone. I hate it! But I never gave up. Another fear was networking with people. Had some stupid embarrassing moments, I never gave up cause I knew it would get easier and had I not worked hard at it , it wouldn't have changed me to do better.

" The steps you take in Life is either going to be a Stumbling block or a Stepping stone."?

Thanks Dean for inspiring me!

This is one of our first posts after watching you for over a year-and-a-half! We found your Weekly Wisdom's so applicable and beneficial that my wife has become a big fan of them as well as me, and we have made watching them a part of our regular business practice.

We have not had much success in our Real Estate Business. However, we are continuing to learn, to try harder, to plan our "attack", to conquer our fears - in all aspects of the business.

We will be successful! Thank you for your motivation, your excitement, your persistence, and helping us to realize our goals and to NOT GIVE UP.

We will be one of your success stories in the very near future!

Our mantra: "I am a successful real estate investor" !!!

Sincerely,
Mark & Erica

This video is so serendipitous for me. I am a big guy, played football professionally for 12 years, but I hate confrontation. It's weird, I know, but on the football field you can just knock somebody down if you disagree...this tends to get you in trouble outside of football. I was just like Dean and would avoid confrontation at all cost. This video has opened my eyes to what I need to do to change that.

Your right, as usual. I apparently lived imprisoned within the walls of my own mind. Afraid of action steps and navigating thru un-charted waters.
But like Famous American Author and poet Mark Twain once said;" Twenty years from now you are going to be more disappointed by the things you didn't do than by the ones you did do.
So, throw off the bow lines, sail away from safe harbor, catch the trade winds in your sails, explore, dream, discover."

B.T.W. Dean, thats a mighty fine looking laptop your thinking about giving away.

Those properties that you have in Milwaukee please reach out to me I would love to work for you and list them!!!