Dean Graziosi Weekly Wisdom #159 - Down Around The Holidays?

Dean thank you for always keeping it real!!! life is not always wonderful. We have'th to make the best of it and sometimes it is easier said than done for me. But I know that the best is yet to come. I always believe the power of the spoken word, what comes out of the mouth defiles the person. Both of my parents are gone and my brothers and sisters seem lost, we always had somewere to go when they were alive even if one sibling was mad at the other when the holidays came around that person forgot about what ever it was and made up at Moms house because they did not want to miss out. And after my mother died we did the same at my father's house. Now we all seem to reach for the love within one another. So this weekly widsom was a eye opener people must remember that money make us comfortable but do not forget the small thing in life is precious. Wake up call for me today.

I'm so happy that we get to start our own traditions as we start families of our own. I can say that I am truly blessed to have a great family and friends.... and that I truly enjoy Holidays!! But I am just as greatful for the ability to not be afraid to break tradition to start my OWN traditions with my Husband and Child.

Thanks for helping to keep things in perspective thru the Holidays!

Renae

Dean,
Thanks for the insight. I too get a little down during the holidays. I suppose it's because we grew up really poor and didn't celebrate them really. That coupled with the fact that we never had family get togethers or functions. My dad would always (as a cover to the fact we were poor)"no where does it say they exchanged gift, it only says they gave the baby Jesus gifts" and while yes this is true it ultimately left me with a hollow feeling to the holidays. Funny note, I even remeber him saying one time that I don't have to wait til November to have a big dinner( again because we couldn't afford the food at the time) so to prove his point we had a "Thanksgiving" dinner in the middle of June once. It felt really weird. Even now in my 30's money and the holidays have foreign/hollow feeling to me. Long story even longer,,,,thank you for helping me to remember that I'm not alone and I DO have the power to control my life/mindset/future and that of my families. I truely appreciate all the time and effort you give us freely every day. I wish the most joyous holidays for you and your family. You deserve it and much more.

This was certainly a pick up for me. This years has been such a roll-a-coaster. I have a medical condition that I've never heard of in my life until just recently. But I still trying to stay focused on my RE business.

Thanks again. My family is not where I live either but the move was by choice.

I am so tired of this medical situation, job losses and not being able to stay focused on the business. I'm not giving up.

Michelle

So reality is a matter of opinion? Though I've heard that before, hearing about a concept in a general way is one thing; hearing about specific moments in time, when the idea is applied and the world you live in is thereby changed, is quite another. It's the Midas touch, grey into gold, sorrow into joy... fear into victory? We notice how we feel, don't like it, decide to feel another way, and voila!
Thank you so much for your kindness and all the things you do to keep us going. You are really amazing in your dedication to us.
I bet we all would be proud to have you at our holiday table
This season is a time of harvest. We see it in Christmas colors, the turning of leaves, the shine in tinsel or of ice crystals in snow. It's a harvest of relations as well - so much emphasis on family now. I am very blessed to have love in my life, but it wasn't always like that. Especially at Christmas, in those days of being alone, I felt like such a failure. But I WASN't one. I held onto my faith in God and when there were choices to make I kept choosing love, choosing happiness, choosing kindness. And anyone who can keep choosing that way is not failing either - s/he's WINNING.
Thanks for reading this. God bless us, every one.

Enjoyed this blog it uplifted my spirit thanks. I was in a car accident the 23 rd rear ended and before it happened I was feeling down then but afterwards i was just feeling blessed and given a chance to begin again. You have said many btimes life is short we only have one chance at it sob why not try just try something outb of our comfort zone. Keep encouraging us please Dean some of us have been like that a long time. Depressed sad angery but you make a difference in your blogs . I won,t give up I will try tomorrow. Thank you.

YOU ALLWAYS RIGTH WISH YOU THE BEST

Thanks Dean and again perfect timing.Although I am keeping my head high I did have to start an hourly job again.My employment insurance left me without and could not make a deal.I do beleive the ploblem is me.Thanks for truly helping me see that deals can be done.Now I only have evenings and weekends maybe this year will be my year.Thankyou all for your support.Anthony2010

Thank you Dean!

By the way,looks like you have been staying disciplined with your workout routine.Getting some great size and definition on those arms. Way to go!

TERYPARRISH Here in Tucson Im 52 working construction all my life. Just started my own company & looking for and easier way to make a living. I know exactly what your talking about! Your always welcome @ my house ! hope to be doing business soon ,

Thanks for sharing Dean. I always have hated the Holidays ever since I was a kid. Don't get me wrong...I like being able to spend time with my family and friends but the whole concept of what Christmas has become (the shopping, spending, traveling, etc.) can be a real drag.
I just can't appreciate the materialistic side of it all. I usually donate to some local charities like the food bank and the homeless shelter so that those people will at least have a good meal for Thanksgiving and Christmas, and that makes me feel good about the Holidays.
Every year, I tell everybody not to get me anything and yet they still do. Not trying to be a Grinch, but when they do, I now feel obligated to go and spend money that I really don't have on people I hardly ever see. So here comes the shopping, spending, and traveling in that awful traffic anyway.
When I was a kid, we never had any money for Christmas and so I learned to appreciate just getting together with our family. But of course when it was time to go back to school a few weeks later, I had to sit in class as the teacher went around the room asking everybody what they got for Christmas. Let me tell you, being dirt poor in my school was a real stigma. So I usually lied and said I got all kinds of great stuff when I knew I hadn't. I guess that's where hating the Holidays started for me, because I associate all those old negative feelings with this time of year. I'm 38 years old and I understand what you mean about how some things never quite leave you.
I do always hope that everyone I know has a safe a happy holiday season and to please remember those who are less fortunate especially in a year where so many have lost so much and some who have lost everything.
Best wishes to all DG family members and to you and your family Dean.

Thank you for sharing your personal thoughts with us Dean. It is a great reminder that we are in control of our lives and that we can put a smile on and change what may have started out poorly. I am sorry Brody was not feeling well. I hope he is feeling better. Thank you for all you do for us in your DG Family.

Holiday turned out Happy after all!

Thanks again,
Lisa

WOW! Dean is only human after all...lol! JK amazing revelation Dean, you inspire me so much. Thanks for sharing

I was feeling depressed as the holidays are here. All of my family has passed away, both parents and both brothers and every year I get the blaaaas.

I have 5 children, 2 grandchildren and a great husband. Your right I need to snap out of it and make it a great holiday! The awesome thing is that we have the power to change our mind set. Control it so it does not control us.

This goes for everything we face in life. It's all in the reaction to circumstances. Are we going to react to circumstances with a negative or turn it around to a positive? THANKS AGAIN DEAN!!!

HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY!!!

Dean..

You are the most humble,caring and inspiring person I have met (cant say formally "met")..at least not yet..maybe at the Edge 2012. : ) ..Your blogs are addicting..you seem to touch on topics that are so deeply rooted in peoples experiences..and watching your blogs, makes me not only realize "hey, Its not just me...so and so... It gives encouragment to keep staying focused. I want to say "Thank You" for sharing your past experiences...my are very similar, divorced parents, living in a mobile home park with my poor mother, father who moved out of state..never raised us girls. I am in my mid 40's now also, and refuse to dwell on my past. Both my parents died young, my mother died in 1987, at age 46 of breast cancer, and my dad in 1992, at 52 from a sudden heart attack. My holidays can be sad too..but our present situation is our "present"..we can open it up and enjoy it..and make the best of it, or we can not open it up and feel like we are missing somthing... Thank you so much.. Enjoy the holiday season with your family... God Bless..

Holly

Thanks, Dean for your weekly wisdom. I have listened and learned for a few years now and always get something that I can use to inprove myself. There is a man named Wayne Dyer who once said, "When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change."

I appreciate the way you and the DG family help me "change the way I look at things". Happy holidays and continued blessings to all who are a part of this site.

Ogal Gaines
LAGO Acquisition,LLC

Dean that is so very powerful and thanks for sharing!

Can you believe as blessed as I am I have similar thoughts.

I have a very supportive wife after all the mistakes I've made, my daughter is in college and working in the field of her choice and my son is a very smart high school student and playing basketball in which I get to attend every game. And to top it off we all have our health and strength.

Your testimony just proves that we can't control what comes in, but we certainly control what we do with what comes in.

I have a lot to correct and work on as it comes to improving my business and financial future. But I get to choose. How great is that? And I can make it all better just by thinking proper thoughts.

Just before listening to your blog I was giving thought to why my business isn't moving as fast as it should. At the same time, I had to make a decision to take action in which I did.

I have an opportunity to make more money this year than any other year with foreclosures and I plan to do just that.

I will keep the DJ family posted as to what I'm doing and the CASH that will roll in very soon because I decided to think a little different and to take Bold Action!

Thanks Dean and Have a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!

Thank you for your words about changing your attitude. A few days before Thanksgiving, my younger sister (age 26) went into the ER with flu symptoms. To make a long story short, she ended up having unknown heart problems and had open heart surgery. Several hours and millions of prayers later, it was finished. After her doctor came out of surgery, the look on his face told us everything. A miracle had occurred. She should have died. Seeing her and her husband face this challenge was very hard. She said she felt herself dying. That she had to will herself to live and pray that God will keep her here to take care of her 3 month old baby. She is improving every day and her positive attitude has propelled her forward.

This season, I have everything to be grateful for. I don't have a perfect life, heck--no one does. Life is so precious that I am grateful for every moment. Thank you for sharing the power of positive thinking. It is what keeps us going throughout the hard stuff in life!

I was feeling down too. I had a sore tooth and I had to find a dentist. The dentist said I needed a root canal and had 4 cavites. The work was done on Monday, now I am feeling better. Thanks.

BillJ
(Huntington Bch CA)

From a very young age, my parents instilled in us that we must be thankful everyday for everything. Therefore, we never set aside a specific day to be thankful. Presently, when I see the dawn of a new day and I could throw my feet off the bed and move, I am indeed thankful. I am still in the world of the living. To those who do not know me I am a loner, and I do not care if Sunday falls on Monday. I have echoed the sentiments to my family and friends, that they do not invite me to their home on holiday, especially the days of Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Year. These days belong to me, to lie in the bed and do nothing. I have no problem visiting them on an afternoon after work, but if I get home, I am only going back out except in cases of emergency. Turkey, I do not particularly like and I am not a big eater, therefore simple meals works best for me. I love my friends and family dearly, and they understand me very well and never had a problem. For the day of Thanksgiving, I ate, spend some time on DG.com and reside in the bed for the balance of the day and did nothing. What a life and I will not give it up for all the tea in China. Tiare, I pray that your sister is doing much better now. May God keep her safe and sound. Thanks Dean, for giving us the opportunity to express how we spent our day.

My Man, Dean.
WOW!!! Let me say that again...backward...WOW!!!You are something, Special. Saying 'Thank You,' somehow, seems inadequate. I truly thank God for you. Can feel your sincere passion in your words and expressions. We can All relate. God bless ya Dean for keeping it Real, my man. Continue to keep first things---FIRST. It starts and end with Family.

This video brought back touching happy holiday memories for me as a child, which we were fortunate to have.

No one owes you anything, and no one said life is easy. Don't compare yourself to others' fortunes and cry because you're not in those shoes. Life is not fair.

You have the key to your destiny no matter what the future holds, so go ahead and make it a good day, just like Dean says.

You will never win if you never begin(Nick Vujicic: Life Without Limbs).wmv
The man originally born to win life.

Go to u tube and look up Nick Vujicic

HELLO DG FAMILY' I know+hear so much about buyers list+how important that is. well im stuck' I have tried bandit signs-index cards'full sheets of paper-with bright colors-in coffee shops' and anywere i can find-with a board-to advertise=no luck. does anyone have any ideas. that may be different? any help would be great, thank you--FARMER-JOE

congratulations for letting go of your old expectations and launching into your new "tradition". you never fail to encourage me and remind me that even when I haven't been successful with my new career I can view life differently and enjoy every day just as it comes to me! Don't think that I've given up on earning my way out of poverty I just can't seem to do it yet ( but I will). The exercise is paying off I am encouraged to do my own routine so that I can get me some" big guns" too.

Hi Dean,

Thanks for sharing with us. It shows that you are human like the rest of us and get depressed sometimes, but like some of us, you turn it around for the better. Well, be happy that your parents are still alive. Mine are dead. I'm OK with that. I have let go of my mom and dad and do not miss them so much because I know they are in a better place. On February 18, 1994, my husband and I separated. He assaulted me physically. Last February, I had so much fun, the day ended without my thinking about what he did. A few of us were on the bus and the bus driver and the rest of us started reminiscing about our days in the Caribbean; the differences and similarities with here and there. I had a great time! Now he is dead too, and I am free to do as I please; not that I will, but it's nice to be given that option. I am happy you started your own tradition with your immediate family. You should think of making it a tradition every thanksgiving. I did that with mine. Well, I hated the big get-togethers with family, because I hated the gossip and lies, especially where I was concerned; the put-downs, when they know what I am worth and what I did to get them to where they are now. I am like you when I feel like that; I just think of happier times and start feeling better. Take this thanksgiving as the beginning of something wonderful for you and your immediate family.
At least you have a wife and two kids. Some people have none of that, and are completely alone for the holidays.
Annis

Hi Dean.
Thanks for sharing. I have yet to start my real estate investing. It's been a year now since I ordered two of your books which I still read. Since I am unemployed you would think that would motivate me to get started. Money is so scarce that I have to wait until I travel to my daughter's house to listen to your blogs on her computer because mine does not have sound, and I cannot afford to get it fixed. I can go on and on. Dean, keep on sharing. GOD bless you and your family.

My child life mirrors yours. My mom was married 3 times, and my father was married and divorced 4 times. They were also divorced from each other when I was 3. Thanks for keeping it real. This is going to be a great year. I read through Profit from Real Estate RIGHT NOW! the first time and now I am reading it but this time I am following it and I am putting it into my journal. You are about to change my life. I am on chapter 4 right now. 44 years old, I will be 45 in February. I work full time as an IT person with the local cable company in Toledo Ohio. I have 7 children, two of which are adults. My youngest is 4. I cannot for you to meet my family. Thanks for doing all that you do.

Talk to you soon,
Gary

Such an inspiration. I've been following your blog for some time now but never made a comment. This time I had to go ahead and register because your message was so appropriate and inspiring I just had to say thank you for the motivation and encouragement.