Frustrated!

Well i can understand your situation, and im sure its not easy!! But time is so very PRECIOUS, and short, make your family the priority, find that balance between family and RE... Gently talk to your fiance (dont argue), and explain why your doing RE, and the benifits of it. Take her hand, go for a walk with her, go see a sunset,just approach her respectfully and sincere. Make her understand that her and your children are so very important to you.. GOD BLESS

Hi Jim,

I so get you. When I first started last year, I heard a lot of negativity and was told that I spent too much time on the computer. A lot of it was going through the Success Academy power point, looking up properties, etc. My husband didn't get it as well and I heard a lot of "Why don't you just get a regular job?" I tried doing REI 20 yrs ago, got started, was excited and learning very quickly. I Loved It! Then we got stationed overseas for a few years and when we came back the company that I had purchased my program and training through went into bankruptcy. So I tried with another company and sent the program back, then another company and really struggled with it. I got A Lot of negative feedback from family and friends. There was so much static that I thought, "Maybe They Are Right! Maybe They See Something I don't!" It was such a struggle just to keep going that I finally gave it up and settled for a job. I always felt a pull on the inside to have my own business. Since then, I started several businesses over the years and failed at it miserably. He gave me support in the very beginning but if he didn't see a quick return, he barked loudly. I came to the conclusion that I was not cut out to have my own business. I was very unhappy for years and just gave up any thought of ever having another business. Over the past 15 yrs, Real Estate Investing was right in front of me, but I pushed it away and lost the taste for it. It wasn't until last year that I was flipping the channels when I came across a guy on TV talking about his REI business. I got interested, for the first time in 15 yrs. Then a week later, I walked in the game room and saw Dean on TV. While he talked, I felt so drawn and for the first time in years I felt pulled to try it again. This past year had been a lot of negativity and putdown but I finally stood up and said, "20 years ago I listened to you tell me that this was not for me and to get a regular job. Back then I was so passionate about it. I gave it all up listening to people tell me it was not for me. This time, I'm not listening to any of it. I am going to do this with or without your support!"

Well, in the past year I've had to rebuild emotionally. I even threatened him with me moving out. (Don't take this advice). I don't want to live with regret of never knowing what I am capable of accomplishing doing REI. He now supports me and has even paid thousands of dollars for our son and I to do REI.

It will take persistence on your part. Don't give it up no matter what if it's what you are passionate about. You Are YOU, And No One Can Live Your Dream But YOU. Do what you feel in your heart. She will come around once she sees you are writing deals and the money and freedom from REI.

Success To Us All:)

Tammy

I am a single man with no family so this comes from no personal experience. So take it with a grain of salt! lol

I would think if you take the time to teach her a little bit about what you are doing... with time... she will see what you see.

Often times if they cant see the same picture you see they will dismiss it.

Show her the dream and her views will evolve.

Good luck!

Don't give up!

Tom

I appreciate your responses, great advice from all of of you. Its great to know I can express myself to a family of real estate investors or soon to be real estate investors who can relate to my situation. If I were to express my situation to anyone else, I most likely wouldn't have had the great feedback, because know one can relate to our mindset and vision right now! It's like we're own species right now until we start closing deals and making money. Once we start closing deals consistently, the outsiders we'll be more than happy to join in! I realize family comes first and I need to prioritize my time better, time is of the essence and my deals will come!

Thanks,
Justin

Aloha
I definately can understand your situation for alot of us go through the same. Im married with 1 and 3 year old and wife works 6 nights a week. Therefore I have my 1 and 3 year old girls with me 6 nights a week. I've actually taken them with me to put out bandit signs and hang flyers. We do it safe and I make a game out of it. I'm also on my own and decided not to talk about it as much as possible to my family. I'm in and out of comfort and giving up at times. I invested in Deans mentorship along with books and have been laughed at. Ive been told to get y money back. So for now, I dont talk about it only to the people who understand and are like minded. I try to go to one RE meeting every 2 weeks to stay focused and when can always looking at DEANS material. Every day I look at something, REAL ESTATE is the freedom and soon will be all of my families. I also get up several hours before everybody and have had to go outside in the dark not to make noise. So I feel your pain but guarantee like I do myself, if you stick with it,will be freedom. Plus you actually already have the passion. When I know I have to make calls I also walk to the swings. I put them side by side and swing them with an ear piece to talk, I write between pushes. Im yet to do a deal and have been studying for 4 months. I know it will come and if you stick with it, will for you. Your wife and family will start to realize when you get your first check from a assignment, etc... I also always thik of the people who have it worse then me. Believe me, I have had rough, but theres always somebody in worse pain that have overcomed. So DEAN and family rocks and keep following and it will come. Hope it has helped in some way and I was long, but I feel better. This is my first post ever, so hope I did alright. Always looking for advice and feedback. DEAN AND FAMILY ROCKS !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hey, I am glad you feel better, just to think of what some of us go through in order to pursue something we believe in. Like I said earlier, we are treated differently, due to the naysayers and the people that aren't strong enough to go after his or her dreams. Here, within the DG family we know with our determination and Deans guidance we'll each get there. When each of us does get there by crossing that bridge to success in Real Estate, I'll be more than happy to give the high fives and congratulate everyone on the other side. Each of us are digging and reaching for that possibility to enhance our lives and better provide for our families. You show great courage and determination, so keep climbing and don't look down, If I'm at the top first I'll reach down and pull you up and I hope you would do the same!

Good Luck,

Justin-

i understand what you are gong through as when i first started my real estate investing my fiance kept saying i spent alot of time on the computer. she didnt support me as much as i wanted her to. so one day i spoke to her calmly and explain to her why i wanted to do real estate and why it was important to me. i told her i would dedicate my mornings and night to her as the rest of the day i would work. and as mike said you need to find that balance between work and family. and if it helps try to get her involved with you in real estate, thats what i did she would watch deans videos and conference calls with me.. and now shes my secretary lol.. she get excited now when dean starts to inspire everyone through his videos. especially deans blueprint video and prize. anyways i hope this helps and my opinion is family is first but if your heart tells you to keep moving with real estate then dont give up. mabey it will just take some time for your family to understand what you are doing. good luck buddy..

have discussions with your fiancée about your dream. However, if she doesn't "get it"; if she can't "share the dream"; you must choose between the two as a man cannot serve two masters. If she is not on your side, then you will be arguing all the time when things go wrong (and plenty will). You need to have everybody pulling the same way to be successful. I hope you two remain on the same side, but you may also need to think about delaying the REI career if she is the woman that you really cherish. Investing will always have their cycles, but a good wife (to be) may be 1 in a million.